OnlyFans and Masturbation
In this episode...
Jamie and his more dateable half Dr. Erika explore important questions like "How many times a day should you masturbate" "is going on OnlyFans cheating?” How to save money on prostitutes". They explore the medical explanation for post-orgasm mood changes, the mystery of the elusive double female orgasm and Jamie tells the story of how he once asked to star in a pornographic film.
Chapters
00:00 - How many times a day are you allowed to masturbate?
01:18 - Is it bad to masturbate instead of having sex with your partner?
02:19 - Why all women should masturbate.
05:28 - The mysteries of a woman’s dual orgasm.
08:10 - Female vs male orgasm: What happens in the body.
10:00 - How to save money on a prostitute.
10:15 - Post-orgasm mood changes & the ideal orgasm.
12:03 - Can you masturbate too much?
13:40 - Can you break your penis?
14:30 - Masturbation and pregnancy.
15:00 - The dangers of porn.
16:47 - Jamie’s brush with gayness.
21:15 - Worst kind of porn.
22:30 - Why OnlyFans is worse than regular porn.
26:45 - Jamie’s epic OnlyFans story.
33:30 - Cuckholds.
34:08 - Quickest way to fix an erection problem.
35:45 - Swingers and Jehovah witnesses.
37:40 - Polygamy.
40:36 - On the next Afraid to Ask...
About the Podcast
Comedian Jamie Lissow and his smarter half Dr. Erika answer all kinds of medical, dating, sex, divorce, questions some might be afraid to ask. Listen & subscribe for prescriptions and punchlines.
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Speaker:hello there boyfriend
Speaker:how are you this fine day
Speaker:I'm really good
Speaker:is it working
Speaker:yes excellent
Speaker:let's not touch shit
Speaker:I'm afraid to ask
Speaker:but I have a great question
Speaker:I don't even know what I was gonna say
Speaker:I'm so disturbed right now
Speaker:I got two questions coming in
Speaker:and both of them
Speaker:are from people I know that pose this question to me
Speaker:and then said
Speaker:could you ask Doctor Erica
Speaker:they said could you ask your girlfriend
Speaker:and the first question is
Speaker:what is the normal amount of a masturbating
Speaker:which brings me to a follow up question
Speaker:this friend of mine
Speaker:isn't it weird that I have friends like this guy
Speaker:did you just get that random text
Speaker:it was an audio message Wanna meet
Speaker:Wanna meet for lunch
Speaker:and by the way
Speaker:how many times should I jerk off
Speaker:yeah I get more now that I'm dating you
Speaker:because they know I could ask you the question really
Speaker:but there's certain friends that
Speaker:there are certain friends
Speaker:I got one friend
Speaker:one of my best friends
Speaker:I'll bet he wouldn't say the word masturbate to me
Speaker:he would never bring it up
Speaker:this other guy
Speaker:he goes hey
Speaker:how often you do it
Speaker:and then he asked also
Speaker:within the relationship
Speaker:what do you think is appropriate
Speaker:because you and I a little bit different
Speaker:I'm traveling sometimes
Speaker:what if you were home all of the time
Speaker:I'm these are all things this man asked me
Speaker:I'm not even um
Speaker:I'm not even expanding on his question
Speaker:these are all questions he had
Speaker:he said like
Speaker:what's a normal amount
Speaker:and then he said
Speaker:is it weird that sometimes
Speaker:even though I live in the set
Speaker:you know me and my wife are here
Speaker:is it a weird thing that I
Speaker:sometimes masturbate
Speaker:and instead of
Speaker:can I give you my thought
Speaker:you're the professional
Speaker:and I'm not a doctor
Speaker:can I give you my
Speaker:yeah Raymond's thought
Speaker:yes my thought would be
Speaker:if you masturbate instead
Speaker:of having sex with your wife bad
Speaker:yeah if you masturbate because all your wife's working
Speaker:she's exhausted
Speaker:she doesn't feel like it
Speaker:I think nothing wrong with that
Speaker:I think once you're choosing porn
Speaker:especially like porn
Speaker:masturbation
Speaker:and that choosing that over sex
Speaker:I think we start to have intimacy problems
Speaker:you're right
Speaker:you're absolutely right so um
Speaker:you will not find a physician
Speaker:out there who will tell you
Speaker:you shouldn't masturbate right
Speaker:unless it's for their religious reasons
Speaker:but for health perspective
Speaker:it is wonderful for everyone to masturbate
Speaker:I encourage it across the board
Speaker:yeah you've told me that you I do
Speaker:cause you have some women that don't right yeah
Speaker:and you told them
Speaker:you gotta get in there
Speaker:statistically speaking
Speaker:women who masturbate actually usually
Speaker:achieve higher levels of recurrent orgasms
Speaker:climaxing because they know what their body wants
Speaker:and then they're more comfortable in their own skin
Speaker:to then convey that to their partner to say hey
Speaker:you know what
Speaker:this is actually what helps me achieve an orgasm
Speaker:so it just blew my mind
Speaker:it helps strengthen relationships
Speaker:because a woman knows what she needs to achieve
Speaker:sexual satisfaction and fulfillment
Speaker:and usually
Speaker:if you're comfortable
Speaker:conveying to your partner that you do masturbate
Speaker:you have to get over that her first
Speaker:a lot of people are scared to even talk about that word
Speaker:yeah you made a great point
Speaker:not to interrupt you
Speaker:but just to clarify
Speaker:you're not saying
Speaker:women that masturbate a lot
Speaker:are able to achieve this higher
Speaker:um level of orgasm
Speaker:more pleasure
Speaker:by themselves
Speaker:you're saying
Speaker:by doing it by themselves
Speaker:they're bringing it to their partner
Speaker:yeah and making the whole thing better
Speaker:well it's very difficult
Speaker:when I have a patient who says
Speaker:what should an orgasm feel like
Speaker:right when they're in their 30s
Speaker:yeah their 40s
Speaker:how do you answer that
Speaker:you just make a bunch of noises
Speaker:what do you say to them
Speaker:do you know how sad that is
Speaker:though yeah
Speaker:to say like
Speaker:you've never had one
Speaker:right and they honestly mean that
Speaker:in their forties
Speaker:so I always recommend clitoral stimulators
Speaker:like the suction ones
Speaker:they're the easiest for women to get off on
Speaker:external stimulation far outweighs internal stimulation
Speaker:on success rates of achieving orgasm okay
Speaker:well a lot of women pulled
Speaker:will even say they've never had an internal orgasm ever
Speaker:not even with masturbations
Speaker:it's difficult for a lot of women
Speaker:but if you've never had an orgasm
Speaker:the best way is to try an external one
Speaker:and I love sex toys
Speaker:I really do
Speaker:because if you're by yourself
Speaker:it's sometimes intimidating to touch yourself
Speaker:and when you have a device that helps
Speaker:and can go faster harder
Speaker:do different things that maybe you couldn't do yourself
Speaker:it kind of takes the shame away for it for some people
Speaker:because they consider it to be like
Speaker:a device that's helping
Speaker:now flip side though
Speaker:a lot of people have shame associated with masturbating
Speaker:and I think that's a big problem
Speaker:yeah I think um
Speaker:people afraid to tell me yeah
Speaker:I think a lot of guys listening just now
Speaker:lost their erections when you got to the shame part
Speaker:it's a big problem though
Speaker:are you well
Speaker:society doesn't want us to talk about masturbating
Speaker:you should be out there having sex with somebody
Speaker:religion there's so many different religions that
Speaker:talk about how you cannot touch yourself
Speaker:and it's a healthy part of our bodies
Speaker:I mean humans were meant to procreate right
Speaker:if you strip part of that away
Speaker:and make it this big taboo
Speaker:this horrible thing
Speaker:it takes the joy and the love
Speaker:and the fun and the excitement out of it
Speaker:sex is gonna suck
Speaker:so I told everyone to masturbate
Speaker:the frequency
Speaker:I mean do it every day
Speaker:can I say I can't say something
Speaker:were you expecting that
Speaker:no I so every day
Speaker:well again physicians love it
Speaker:because there are so many positive
Speaker:benefits to masturbating
Speaker:um do you know what I didn't know
Speaker:you said two things that I think
Speaker:I'm embarrassed
Speaker:I didn't know what
Speaker:well I know now
Speaker:I didn't know a year ago
Speaker:met you about a year ago
Speaker:that's why I'm saying it that way
Speaker:I didn't know that a woman
Speaker:you ready for this uh oh
Speaker:I did not know
Speaker:and I would be willing to bet
Speaker:there's gotta be more men that don't know that
Speaker:I know this for a fact
Speaker:because one friend of mine
Speaker:I talked to him about making women orgasm
Speaker:he's like what is it
Speaker:what happens
Speaker:and he was he's like a 50 year old man
Speaker:and he was like confused
Speaker:that women orgasm was very bizarre
Speaker:but I'll admit to you right now Erica
Speaker:but you didn't think they did
Speaker:he was not aware of what
Speaker:how it how it sounded or what happened
Speaker:he was like oh
Speaker:I think she likes it when I do my thing wow
Speaker:I know he's older than me too
Speaker:well that's an intimacy thing mm hmm
Speaker:do you know what I didn't know
Speaker:do you have a guess
Speaker:I didn't know that women can have orgasms on the inside
Speaker:and the outside
Speaker:no idea I don't think
Speaker:oh really I would say
Speaker:I don't know
Speaker:I don't know
Speaker:how many men know that
Speaker:you can have a double orgasm too
Speaker:you can have both at the same time wow
Speaker:we talked about this before
Speaker:but you and you said to me
Speaker:I think if I were to invent any kind of pill
Speaker:it would be
Speaker:it would be either um
Speaker:I'd like a superpower
Speaker:it would either be invisibility
Speaker:or being able to make anyone shit their pants
Speaker:you have told me that if you had a pill made
Speaker:it would be to lessen the refractory
Speaker:is that the right word
Speaker:refractory period of a guy being able to go again
Speaker:cause that is not
Speaker:it's I mean no
Speaker:it's a cliche
Speaker:but guy not go again
Speaker:not having erection again
Speaker:ejaculate a second time
Speaker:oh yeah for women
Speaker:sex is so much
Speaker:and I shouldn't say women
Speaker:for any partner
Speaker:receiving penetration by a male partner
Speaker:or a person with a penis
Speaker:right I like to think about women with it
Speaker:but you're right
Speaker:there's an element of satisfaction
Speaker:that goes along with it right
Speaker:like I enjoy having sex with you
Speaker:I love it when you actually orgasm wow
Speaker:so if then you're like having sex with me a second time
Speaker:like right after just to make me feel good
Speaker:it's kind of a guilty thing like okay
Speaker:you're doing it for me but like
Speaker:it really turns me on when I know that you're satisfied
Speaker:so I would have loved like
Speaker:if I can have multiple orgasms
Speaker:I would love it if my partner could as well
Speaker:it's a weird design flaw
Speaker:um is it not a design flaw
Speaker:is it not an engineering fail
Speaker:that guy does one and the women has multiple
Speaker:maybe not
Speaker:maybe not I don't know
Speaker:but it seems a little
Speaker:I think for bonding it's nice
Speaker:I think it's interesting how
Speaker:women can have sex for quite a while
Speaker:and want to continue
Speaker:and once a man has ejaculated it's done
Speaker:once I've had an orgasm
Speaker:yeah I do want to keep going yeah
Speaker:there's such a disparity between like
Speaker:it's so fun
Speaker:like it like yeah
Speaker:for a woman
Speaker:I feel like sometimes it's like sex orgasm
Speaker:we're just getting the party started
Speaker:and for me it's like sex orgasm
Speaker:you go wash your hands
Speaker:you come back
Speaker:I have a sleep mask on
Speaker:there's there's an
Speaker:I'll be a noise machine playing
Speaker:like it's over
Speaker:we're done for the day
Speaker:well I think you have to look at um
Speaker:what an orgasm does too yeah right
Speaker:so when you climax
Speaker:your body releases neurotransmitters
Speaker:one of them dopamine
Speaker:the happy hormone right
Speaker:and um semen
Speaker:my body doesn't do that
Speaker:uh but oxytocin
Speaker:and that's the love bonding horse
Speaker:love oxytocin big fan
Speaker:well for women
Speaker:it's really
Speaker:that one is like
Speaker:our driving force of why we want to be intimate
Speaker:a lot of women can't even have sex with their partner
Speaker:until they feel love
Speaker:and they need physical touch
Speaker:they need a hug
Speaker:a hand held
Speaker:yeah sometimes even
Speaker:doing something positive for someone else can release
Speaker:oxytocin so when you're like
Speaker:setting up the romantic date for your partner right
Speaker:she gets turned on
Speaker:the biggest sex organ for a woman is her brain
Speaker:hmm so with sex
Speaker:it's like let's keep going
Speaker:because I now feel bonded to you right
Speaker:and the release of oxytocin really helps
Speaker:relax everything
Speaker:and that's why you feel so amazing afterwards
Speaker:like you feel this connection with the person
Speaker:you feel this powerful bond
Speaker:that maybe you didn't have right before
Speaker:like it heightens it a little bit
Speaker:definitely when there's so many positives of
Speaker:of masturbating
Speaker:because you can achieve oxytocin by yourself by the way
Speaker:it doesn't have to be with somebody
Speaker:isn't that fascinating right
Speaker:that is fascinating
Speaker:so it's not just that bonding hormone
Speaker:but it still conjures this feeling of like yes
Speaker:really good
Speaker:also masturbating
Speaker:a lot cheaper
Speaker:right there's no dinner
Speaker:there's not it's a lot
Speaker:there's less
Speaker:it's less complicated
Speaker:I know what you're saying
Speaker:I'm just saying it's a
Speaker:I don't even know where to go
Speaker:do you think some guys masturbate
Speaker:and they should
Speaker:because it is an easier simpler
Speaker:I'm not totally joking here
Speaker:I know guys that have been
Speaker:almost about to get a prostitute
Speaker:and what they do is
Speaker:they masturbate to avoid having to get the prostitute
Speaker:saving that money
Speaker:and then do you know that when get
Speaker:I've what I'm afraid to ask
Speaker:but I have a great question
Speaker:ah do women
Speaker:so when you're a guy
Speaker:you're almost two different people
Speaker:before and after um
Speaker:you finish right
Speaker:so like there are things you
Speaker:cause you get excited
Speaker:there are things you might say or do that
Speaker:and maybe guilt plays into this
Speaker:maybe like a religious guilt
Speaker:but there are moments when
Speaker:right when after it happens
Speaker:like there's like
Speaker:kind of like a guilt like
Speaker:oh my God like
Speaker:I feel like
Speaker:I feel like back in the day I
Speaker:I wished that the perfect orgasm would be
Speaker:it happened right
Speaker:right as the girl was leaving
Speaker:door closes
Speaker:oh my gosh that's terrible to say
Speaker:just in the sense of like a
Speaker:like a shame thing
Speaker:oh and I'll be honest with you
Speaker:I didn't get the whole connection thing until I met you
Speaker:I guess it takes a minute
Speaker:I guess it takes a minute until you meet somebody
Speaker:but um yeah
Speaker:all the questions gonna ask you is
Speaker:I think guys feel very
Speaker:it changes their mental state a ton before and after
Speaker:not just taking a nap
Speaker:it's time to go to sleep
Speaker:is that true for women or not so much
Speaker:right I mean yes
Speaker:a lot of the physiological manifestations of sex
Speaker:orgasm and what you feel afterwards
Speaker:are similar in both genders
Speaker:I think you have to take into account context
Speaker:more than anything
Speaker:I think what you're asking is like
Speaker:do do women have like those same feelings
Speaker:yeah I mean
Speaker:sometimes if I'm in a good mood though
Speaker:I'm in a better mood
Speaker:if I'm in a bad mood and we have makeup sex
Speaker:I'm in a great mood right
Speaker:um uh huh yeah
Speaker:I don't know I I
Speaker:I love to circle back to your question of the frequency
Speaker:though because I think oh yes
Speaker:please well
Speaker:I think the problem is
Speaker:so many people think that they're gonna break it
Speaker:I get that question a lot from guys like
Speaker:if I if I masturbate too much
Speaker:am I gonna have a problem
Speaker:right uh huh
Speaker:not only can having orgasms
Speaker:like really reduce your stress level
Speaker:it actually combats cortisol
Speaker:your stress
Speaker:your fight or flight hormone
Speaker:it helps your body relax yeah
Speaker:it can have cardiovascular health benefits too
Speaker:you're getting a workout
Speaker:depending on what you're doing
Speaker:especially if you're intimate with a partner
Speaker:and moving around
Speaker:you're getting your blood flowing
Speaker:your oxygen is circulating quicker
Speaker:you're having all of those health
Speaker:benefits through your body and your bloodstream
Speaker:so you're helping yourself
Speaker:but the problem is
Speaker:when is it too much yeah
Speaker:I don't think there's a problem with that
Speaker:because it's not like
Speaker:another advice where you could get into trouble
Speaker:if you drink too much or smoke too much
Speaker:the problem is when it becomes
Speaker:why you're masturbating hmm
Speaker:if you're masturbating
Speaker:because you only like something a certain way
Speaker:and your partner cannot fulfill that
Speaker:then you won't be able to orgasm with your partner
Speaker:and it's going to create a huge disparity and
Speaker:conflicts in your relationship
Speaker:and it could actually
Speaker:damage or even break up the relationship
Speaker:sure and then similarly
Speaker:what do you do when you masturbate right
Speaker:do you fantasize about someone
Speaker:do you fantasize about your partner so like
Speaker:you've told me that you think about me when you're
Speaker:across the country and we can't have sex
Speaker:and if that's true
Speaker:that's super nice it is true
Speaker:it's absolutely true
Speaker:but you know what
Speaker:you know what
Speaker:to compliment even further
Speaker:not to be not to be super romantic
Speaker:but I thought about that stuff
Speaker:even before we started dating
Speaker:gross
Speaker:I was like it was like
Speaker:oh my God you don't have any Olympics
Speaker:what they kind of like rehearse they run through it
Speaker:that's all I was doing was training javelin right now
Speaker:so there you said they're afraid they're gonna break it
Speaker:can I tell you something
Speaker:yeah if you do it too much
Speaker:I fucking tried
Speaker:I have tried
Speaker:you tried to break your penis
Speaker:I mean as a young adult
Speaker:there were times when
Speaker:it gets a little so you can't do it the next day
Speaker:cause there's there's some issues too much
Speaker:yeah well absolutely
Speaker:well I will tell you um
Speaker:the only negative that I have had with
Speaker:frequent masturbation is come everywhere
Speaker:oh you mean yourself sorry
Speaker:I don't I apologize
Speaker:I'm trying to be professional here
Speaker:and it's kind of impossible
Speaker:you're saying
Speaker:I misunderstood
Speaker:you're saying with a woman yourself
Speaker:the only problem
Speaker:is that what you're saying
Speaker:you're saying I'm still hung up on like
Speaker:the seam in Olympics coming out of your mouth
Speaker:yeah just it's
Speaker:it's called visualization
Speaker:when you're trying to get pregnant
Speaker:because you can overuse your semen reserves
Speaker:and males need time to regenerate
Speaker:so if you're having sex or masturbating too frequently
Speaker:you're not going to have enough sperm right
Speaker:so sometimes we'll recommend like in every other day
Speaker:for example
Speaker:when you're trying to conceive
Speaker:that's the only negative
Speaker:really right
Speaker:again though
Speaker:relationship wise
Speaker:if you're masturbating
Speaker:because you have to watch porn to get in the mood
Speaker:this can be a very big problem
Speaker:there's actually a huge
Speaker:huge problem right now in
Speaker:society that we don't really talk about
Speaker:about the dangers of porn
Speaker:I don't have a problem with porn
Speaker:I don't have a problem
Speaker:no if you came
Speaker:if you came home from work
Speaker:and I'm in here and you walk in
Speaker:whoops and I'm watching something on my phone
Speaker:I just give you a hard time
Speaker:yeah cause you'd be busted
Speaker:I know you'd have that look of like
Speaker:yeah oh yeah
Speaker:absolutely yeah
Speaker:your sound effect
Speaker:it seemed like I finished as you were coming in
Speaker:oh gross would you
Speaker:be upset depending on the the content
Speaker:the type of porn
Speaker:the type of porn absolutely
Speaker:what if it was some like a gang bang
Speaker:wouldn't you be like
Speaker:what is this shit
Speaker:because then it makes you wonder like
Speaker:what is this person into
Speaker:right totally
Speaker:give me one second while I erase my history
Speaker:okay continue
Speaker:underage girls
Speaker:that's a big one though
Speaker:that's a huge red flag
Speaker:that a lot of women need to look into
Speaker:instead of normalizing well
Speaker:they're 18 right
Speaker:if you're a 40 year old man
Speaker:and you're watching 18 year olds
Speaker:that are dressed up to look like school aged
Speaker:girls in high school
Speaker:yeah that's where the partner needs to have some
Speaker:really strong
Speaker:discussions with you
Speaker:to see if this is something that you can change or not
Speaker:so the type of porn absolutely matters by the way
Speaker:what if by the way
Speaker:I saw you watching like guy on guy
Speaker:then I would have a ton of questions
Speaker:tons of questions right
Speaker:so types of porn absolutely matter
Speaker:and also by the way not likely
Speaker:guy and guy
Speaker:but I'm sure that there's been
Speaker:incidences where that's happened
Speaker:and then the other partners left to wonder
Speaker:while they're the opposite gender
Speaker:are they fulfilling their partners needs
Speaker:can I tell you something honestly
Speaker:and I feel slightly guilty about this
Speaker:I one time I've never watched
Speaker:I've never searched out guy and guy pornography
Speaker:but one time when I was younger
Speaker:I had a magazine with naked women on it
Speaker:and I went to turn the page and by mistake
Speaker:I finished on a Cologne ad with a guy
Speaker:wait a minute
Speaker:as you're jerking off
Speaker:you're turning the pages
Speaker:yeah before you could focus on one page
Speaker:no there's so many different options
Speaker:this is like uh
Speaker:how we used to
Speaker:this is like our TikTok
Speaker:like our you'd switch it back and forth the page
Speaker:you go from one scene to another
Speaker:there's pages
Speaker:and one time it ended as
Speaker:and I was on the wrong
Speaker:it was like a guy in a horse
Speaker:you came to uh
Speaker:with a Cologne
Speaker:an equestrian
Speaker:I did photograph
Speaker:I swear to god
Speaker:that's a true story
Speaker:and I'm probably
Speaker:I was like oh god
Speaker:that feels weird
Speaker:was it like the Marlboro man might yeah
Speaker:it was like similar to that
Speaker:like a tough man selling a Cologne
Speaker:I totally interrupted you
Speaker:I just wanted to tell you that
Speaker:so if I ever asked
Speaker:you what the worst orgasm of your life was
Speaker:could we go to that one
Speaker:yeah yeah it's just
Speaker:that was most confusing
Speaker:because it was so good just my
Speaker:just the feelings I had
Speaker:yeah you know what's weird
Speaker:next day to him
Speaker:and wipe off his mustache after oh my God
Speaker:let me tell you something
Speaker:next day I bought that Cologne
Speaker:that shit works
Speaker:advertising works
Speaker:talk about successful marketing
Speaker:so you were saying
Speaker:I'm sorry advertising
Speaker:I was saying
Speaker:I think the type of porn can be very
Speaker:detrimental to a relationship or very telling
Speaker:sure and also
Speaker:it becomes extremely difficult in society when you have
Speaker:these supermodel looking women
Speaker:with a lot of plastic surgery
Speaker:which I'm not knocking
Speaker:I've had plastic surgery
Speaker:I'm open about it
Speaker:but what they're setting it up for
Speaker:is this perfect supermodel with this average guy
Speaker:yeah he is an average guy
Speaker:isn't it always
Speaker:an average guy with a belly
Speaker:yeah just happens to have a huge penis
Speaker:sometimes not even a huge penis
Speaker:but also the women the
Speaker:the angles are usually made to look at the
Speaker:the man's perspective
Speaker:and treating the woman
Speaker:yeah the woman is moaning
Speaker:I'll search it that way
Speaker:right acting as if she's extremely into it
Speaker:or faking orgasm
Speaker:several times
Speaker:they must be faking it
Speaker:is the professional
Speaker:so the the man or woman watching this pornography
Speaker:has this super inflated idea
Speaker:that all of sex has to be this glamorous person
Speaker:yes this fake
Speaker:perfect body
Speaker:who orgasms really easily
Speaker:several times
Speaker:and you're right
Speaker:it gets it's too
Speaker:it's too high of an ideal
Speaker:and in order to have an orgasm
Speaker:even as a guy
Speaker:you're a guy going like okay
Speaker:let's bring all the other girls in
Speaker:everybody put their glasses on
Speaker:it really does make it
Speaker:difficult for an average couple to be intimate
Speaker:when the expectation is that
Speaker:and that's the only way
Speaker:if you have a recurrent pornographic watcher
Speaker:and that's all they watch in reality
Speaker:they can't achieve it
Speaker:and often times they cannot ejaculate
Speaker:or orgasm uh
Speaker:depending on the gender
Speaker:cause they're used to that
Speaker:and then the partner has this really big problem of
Speaker:I can't do what these fake people can do sure
Speaker:that's where pornography addiction happens
Speaker:where you cannot anymore have good sex in real life
Speaker:can I be honest
Speaker:that's problematic
Speaker:that is problematic
Speaker:I do I barely watch pornography
Speaker:I told you that right
Speaker:yeah and I probably watched more than you
Speaker:to be quite honest
Speaker:you think I don't watch a lot of it but I mean
Speaker:yeah me neither
Speaker:when I watch it
Speaker:I only watch it for like 2 to 3 minutes haha
Speaker:alright oh my God do you guys watch the whole thing
Speaker:do women do the same thing
Speaker:that's weird right
Speaker:back in the day we had VHS tapes for pornography
Speaker:I gotta stop doing this aging myself thing
Speaker:but you would never find a VHS tape
Speaker:all the way to the end or all the way around
Speaker:it was always stopped right there
Speaker:cause you you know what I mean I
Speaker:I think most women
Speaker:and again I'm speaking because of myself
Speaker:find the best porn for us to watch
Speaker:that's focused on the woman receiving action
Speaker:so if a man is performing oral sex to the woman
Speaker:and the angle is at which I can see it
Speaker:it turns me on okay
Speaker:watching a man just slam into a woman
Speaker:with penetrative sex doesn't do it for me
Speaker:because it's the angle of
Speaker:the way that the guy is positioned usually
Speaker:porn is shot in a way that's appealing for a man hmm
Speaker:yeah you know what I don't like in porn
Speaker:what it's my least favorite thing in any instance
Speaker:I don't like when there's a guy and he's like
Speaker:making too many noises
Speaker:I prefer the guy to be very quiet
Speaker:I don't like when he's like
Speaker:I always think to myself
Speaker:what emotions were you just doing
Speaker:please don't no
Speaker:don't do I don't wanna see
Speaker:let's stop that
Speaker:that's right
Speaker:indefinitely
Speaker:bring it you know
Speaker:I don't like it I go
Speaker:did you just film your own porn just now
Speaker:but I don't like when they make all those noises
Speaker:cause I wanna go hey buddy
Speaker:you're a you're a porn star
Speaker:act like you've been there
Speaker:to me that's like you just scored a touchdown
Speaker:you're a professional football player now
Speaker:you're dancing all around
Speaker:she's like eh
Speaker:come on buddy
Speaker:just give it a nod
Speaker:drop the football
Speaker:right couple of high fives
Speaker:you know
Speaker:I don't even know what I was gonna say
Speaker:I'm so disturbed right now
Speaker:I have a situation
Speaker:a friend of mine's in that I could tell you
Speaker:that involves pornography
Speaker:I have a friend of mine who is in very
Speaker:good relationship
Speaker:very loving relationship and um he
Speaker:recently kind of invited me about the situation he's in
Speaker:and he said that everything's going great with his um
Speaker:relationship
Speaker:but the other day the
Speaker:there's so much to this
Speaker:there's so much to this
Speaker:the other day his wife picked up his phone
Speaker:and the way he described it to me
Speaker:you and I are very open with our phones
Speaker:I don't have a phone that like
Speaker:I'll go ahead take a picture of my phone
Speaker:there's no like protectiveness or like
Speaker:I'm afraid someone's gonna text me yeah
Speaker:you the same with me the other day
Speaker:you're going to therapy
Speaker:and I was like
Speaker:I forgot my phone and you go take mine for an hour
Speaker:we don't have a phone thing
Speaker:we have no phone thing
Speaker:he it sounded like she was looking through his phone
Speaker:oh like it didn't seem like oh
Speaker:something popped up
Speaker:and she went to his search history
Speaker:well there's problems right there right
Speaker:if you feel like you have to look in the first place
Speaker:there's probably problems with the relationship
Speaker:but go ahead
Speaker:she goes into the search history
Speaker:oh she finds
Speaker:now it's not pornography
Speaker:it's not hey
Speaker:18 year old girl
Speaker:it's not oh
Speaker:step that you know
Speaker:yeah my stepdad likes me better than you mom
Speaker:nothing like that oh
Speaker:I don't know what that is
Speaker:that that just
Speaker:that whole genre disturbs me
Speaker:yeah um okay
Speaker:yeah I'm gonna still
Speaker:continue to watch it till I get to the bottom of it
Speaker:stop so she says that she finds in his history
Speaker:on on only fans thing
Speaker:where he has
Speaker:do you know my
Speaker:my onlyfans story
Speaker:maybe I'll tell you
Speaker:so where he has subscribed
Speaker:not just advertisements
Speaker:coming up for a girl with an Onlyfans thing
Speaker:he's paying the girl $5
Speaker:$10 a month
Speaker:you know onlyfans right
Speaker:like it's basically
Speaker:it's not necessarily porn stars
Speaker:naked people
Speaker:I don't know
Speaker:this probably was
Speaker:and it's like
Speaker:oh little videos
Speaker:it's not live
Speaker:it's not it's not a chat room no
Speaker:I don't like it but um
Speaker:so she kicked him out of the house really
Speaker:I wouldn't I didn't
Speaker:but you said
Speaker:if you walked in
Speaker:you saw my thing
Speaker:you would be
Speaker:you'd be like
Speaker:laugh about it
Speaker:so why the difference in
Speaker:because that's a real person
Speaker:and a lot of the time with fantasies yeah
Speaker:you watch a pornographic movie
Speaker:hopefully you're not watching the same exact movie
Speaker:1,000 times over
Speaker:because you have a thing for the woman that's
Speaker:having sex in the video
Speaker:I did that once
Speaker:but as long as I couldn't forget to download it
Speaker:and I was on airplanes
Speaker:it's but it had nothing to do with well
Speaker:if you pay for an expensive movie
Speaker:you wanna get your money's worth
Speaker:you wanna watch it more than once
Speaker:I won't judge you there
Speaker:but that's where
Speaker:I think it differs
Speaker:the only fancy thing is it's a lie
Speaker:it's a real person who's like
Speaker:wanting you to keep returning and watch more of them
Speaker:so you're not worried about
Speaker:all the time
Speaker:I'm worried about
Speaker:you're not worried about
Speaker:exploitation
Speaker:cause you're saying like
Speaker:this person is
Speaker:obviously making some money
Speaker:this is something they chosen to do
Speaker:you're more worried about
Speaker:some sort of connection or intimacy problem between
Speaker:this guy and his wife
Speaker:because he's
Speaker:I'm worried about your friend
Speaker:watching a woman
Speaker:who he clearly has a thing for
Speaker:you think see
Speaker:I don't I don't think he does
Speaker:I think he I think
Speaker:his wife doesn't have a lot of time for them to be
Speaker:intimate right now
Speaker:he should just be
Speaker:watching porns
Speaker:random porns
Speaker:regular porns
Speaker:I think so if that's what really does it for him
Speaker:if it's one person
Speaker:over and over and over again
Speaker:why wouldn't you think
Speaker:that there's something there
Speaker:that has to be like hmm
Speaker:they have a thing for this
Speaker:obviously has a thing for wow
Speaker:I wanted to
Speaker:disagree with you so badly
Speaker:and you've almost totally
Speaker:convinced me well
Speaker:I don't think
Speaker:maybe it's not like
Speaker:I wanna go leave my wife for this woman right
Speaker:but certainly
Speaker:now you wonder
Speaker:when you're having sex with me
Speaker:are you thinking about me
Speaker:or you thinking about this one other girl right
Speaker:versus like
Speaker:okay sometimes you watch porn
Speaker:you like to
Speaker:watch a guy and a girl having sex
Speaker:and then the next
Speaker:week or month
Speaker:or whenever you do it
Speaker:you're gonna watch a different one
Speaker:it's not an intimacy level hmm
Speaker:it would drive me crazy
Speaker:if you watch one girl
Speaker:over and over
Speaker:and over again wow
Speaker:that's so interesting
Speaker:but it makes perfect sense
Speaker:it feels like a form of cheating
Speaker:to be quite honest
Speaker:I get it I get it
Speaker:I didn't get it
Speaker:cause also when you're
Speaker:when you're having an orgasm
Speaker:and you're watching this woman
Speaker:yep you're thinking of that woman
Speaker:you're not thinking of me
Speaker:that's true
Speaker:when you're watching a porn
Speaker:you're watching
Speaker:multiple people have sex
Speaker:to me it's very like
Speaker:you're kind of
Speaker:like the observer
Speaker:in a bigger picture
Speaker:doesn't bug me
Speaker:that's another good point
Speaker:that I think
Speaker:all onlyfans
Speaker:I'd honestly
Speaker:don't know much about it
Speaker:but I know all onlyfans
Speaker:I think are
Speaker:usually a girl
Speaker:just the one person right
Speaker:I don't know
Speaker:I've never seen an onlyfans sing
Speaker:I've seen a couple
Speaker:but only because
Speaker:oh really did I tell you this story
Speaker:did I ever tell you that
Speaker:no I'm in Lowell Arkansas
Speaker:home of Walmart
Speaker:where Walmart was created
Speaker:so there's a comedy club there
Speaker:and you get a great crowd
Speaker:smart people
Speaker:a beautiful area
Speaker:well Arkansas
Speaker:at the end of the show
Speaker:I'm selling t shirts
Speaker:this look you're giving me is uh
Speaker:it's making me nervous
Speaker:but I also like that you care
Speaker:so I'm I'm just gonna say the whole truth
Speaker:I didn't know you at the time by the way
Speaker:this was years ago and I was also single
Speaker:this girl comes up
Speaker:then I don't have a problem with it by the way
Speaker:okay but listen
Speaker:oh there's more great oh yeah
Speaker:this girl comes up to my table and at first glance
Speaker:I had I feel like gotta be a an exotic dancer
Speaker:stripper prostitute something
Speaker:there's something about her just gigantic like I mean
Speaker:I mean like a cart almost like a like a circus level
Speaker:you nothing like a normal
Speaker:woman would have that would walk around and be a doctor
Speaker:or a banker or anything
Speaker:these were like gigantic displayed breasts okay
Speaker:and she came off my table and she was she was like
Speaker:there was a guy
Speaker:but he wasn't standing right next to her
Speaker:when she starts saying
Speaker:a lot of nice things about my comedy Erica
Speaker:oh my God you're so funny
Speaker:blah blah blah right
Speaker:and then she goes what um
Speaker:where do you guys stay at
Speaker:whenever a girl after a show ask you where you stay at
Speaker:it usually means like they wanna sleep with you right
Speaker:like what hotel are you at type of thing
Speaker:or do you think you don't think so
Speaker:probably it's getting there
Speaker:there's some kind of yeah
Speaker:there's something
Speaker:so to be honest
Speaker:so I don't I usually have I usually don't
Speaker:I don't tell the truth on that
Speaker:and I said oh
Speaker:I'm just it
Speaker:I said that Hilton
Speaker:I said a made up thing or whatever and um
Speaker:I didn't find her attractive
Speaker:she definitely looked like a someone in the industry
Speaker:but I wasn't like
Speaker:oh this girl's hot
Speaker:it was more like okay
Speaker:like she looks like she could be in a in a
Speaker:exotic film or something
Speaker:she says to me
Speaker:I don't know what you're doing after
Speaker:but me and my husband
Speaker:husband husband
Speaker:he's right behind her now
Speaker:he comes up
Speaker:she goes we have a
Speaker:she gives me a business card
Speaker:that says her name
Speaker:and then it says onlyfans on this business card
Speaker:and then it says we
Speaker:we have this thing this big
Speaker:basically like a mansion
Speaker:this big big
Speaker:a bunch of land
Speaker:and there's a bunch of hot tubs and a pool
Speaker:and we're just gonna go back and just like relax
Speaker:and there's like it's fun
Speaker:we have video games and stuff and um
Speaker:would you wanna
Speaker:would you wanna maybe come over
Speaker:sounds like the Playboy Mansion parties
Speaker:it was like a like
Speaker:that's the picture I'm getting
Speaker:do you know you know
Speaker:I said it was a little Arkansas
Speaker:it's the Walmart version of the Playboy Mansion
Speaker:like this is gonna be like a lower end
Speaker:and so he did try to hook you with video games so yeah
Speaker:my expectations aren't too high
Speaker:so I was single
Speaker:I had nothing to do that
Speaker:right you went
Speaker:I went home and ordered a rotisserie chicken from a
Speaker:food place and just ate it by myself and didn't go
Speaker:oh I was like ready for a story
Speaker:the next day on Twitter
Speaker:I get a message that says
Speaker:hey sorry it didn't work out
Speaker:and you didn't want to come over
Speaker:you're not gonna believe what I'm gonna tell you
Speaker:she goes I'm sorry you didn't wanna come over like
Speaker:sorry if we offended you
Speaker:like that was definitely not the intention
Speaker:and then it says
Speaker:you probably don't even want this
Speaker:but here's a free
Speaker:subscription to my only fans for a year
Speaker:I don't wanna offend you
Speaker:but this is like my business is what we do
Speaker:I'm not trying to be weird
Speaker:obviously you weren't interested
Speaker:and she sends me a link oh
Speaker:alright well I mean
Speaker:you gotta check it out
Speaker:I would have checked it out
Speaker:I clicked the link
Speaker:yeah no judgement
Speaker:don't look at me like I'm gonna get mad at you
Speaker:it's fine it opens up
Speaker:is it just it's just her
Speaker:and she says
Speaker:hey guys it's time for um
Speaker:it's a subscriber appreciation uh Friday
Speaker:this would happen on a Thursday
Speaker:the the night that she came up to the merch table
Speaker:it was a Thursday
Speaker:oh it's time for subscriber appreciation Thursday
Speaker:we filmed a special video only for subscribers
Speaker:and we want to show it to you guys and whatever
Speaker:and it was a video of the palatial estate
Speaker:they had spoken of hot tubs
Speaker:and then on screen comes um
Speaker:one of the person that opened for me getting blown what
Speaker:by this girl what
Speaker:in front of her husband
Speaker:what you saw someone you worked with penis
Speaker:yeah and she
Speaker:in someone else's mouth
Speaker:yeah and it offended me at first because I was like
Speaker:I am the headliner
Speaker:I thought she came up to me because I was really funny
Speaker:and that's all
Speaker:it doesn't matter who it was
Speaker:you just gonna go right from headliner to feature
Speaker:to opener if you don't get me to come back
Speaker:wow so if I'd gone back
Speaker:so you would have been in your own pornographic movie
Speaker:yeah and that would have been a hard story for me to
Speaker:I don't know
Speaker:I don't think anything I I
Speaker:I would have
Speaker:I didn't go and that lives forever on the internet
Speaker:yeah and I'm sure he gave permission
Speaker:cause this was on his
Speaker:on the only fans this man
Speaker:his face his penis
Speaker:everything was there damn
Speaker:so if I had gone
Speaker:that's what they were
Speaker:that's what I thought
Speaker:that's what they wanted was gonna happen
Speaker:and that's what they wanted
Speaker:is that crazy
Speaker:but I didn't look at it anymore
Speaker:I mean I didn't look at the
Speaker:the free only fans anymore
Speaker:I love free stuff
Speaker:so it's really tempting
Speaker:I felt like it was wasting it
Speaker:but isn't that kind of wild
Speaker:you know what
Speaker:I had a little bit of jealousy
Speaker:you did oh does that make you happy
Speaker:it does cause I said so much
Speaker:well no so it doesn't bother me that you watched
Speaker:it doesn't bother me
Speaker:we weren't even together
Speaker:what I was thinking is
Speaker:if you had gone and you got filmed
Speaker:how upset I would be that
Speaker:like anybody could have seen your naked body hmm
Speaker:now and that's mine
Speaker:yeah that's all I thought
Speaker:that makes perfect sense
Speaker:I like that type of jealousy
Speaker:I think but like
Speaker:it doesn't bother me
Speaker:even if you had gone
Speaker:that was just like
Speaker:I wouldn't want anyone to see you now
Speaker:that wouldn't bother you
Speaker:even if there's no video cameras running
Speaker:or they film it and then I go no
Speaker:I'm not giving you permission
Speaker:that wouldn't bother you
Speaker:if I had a story where yeah
Speaker:I went back
Speaker:it was weird
Speaker:this lady gave me oral sex
Speaker:her husband watched
Speaker:the husband watching to me is the crazy part
Speaker:I mean I think the whole thing is fucked
Speaker:hahaha yeah
Speaker:if you wanna know
Speaker:I mean that's messed up
Speaker:I I feel like
Speaker:at least for me
Speaker:I like to practice monogamy
Speaker:but to each their own
Speaker:they were both consenting
Speaker:so it gets not fun
Speaker:but for me it is in a relationship absolute
Speaker:I do not in any way understand
Speaker:the whole I wanna see my girl with some other guy
Speaker:oh my God like when I was um
Speaker:any people arrange that
Speaker:they pay for it if um
Speaker:if I ever wanted to see something like that
Speaker:back when I was in a relationship
Speaker:I would have
Speaker:I would have come home early from work
Speaker:what I was like back when you were in a relationship
Speaker:such a bit I apologize
Speaker:um I said that I got fooled once
Speaker:oh well well
Speaker:you said back when you were in a relationship
Speaker:it kind of threw me
Speaker:oh I'm sorry
Speaker:did you forget you have one
Speaker:I was trying not to talk about an exact person
Speaker:that's why I mumbled
Speaker:jumbled there a little bit
Speaker:I think that you
Speaker:you know what
Speaker:I think this is the most important point
Speaker:and I get this a lot
Speaker:I do a lot of therapy in my practice
Speaker:believe it or not
Speaker:you mean you come in as a doctor yeah
Speaker:I have a lot of women come in and ask me and men too
Speaker:um about sexual concerns and intimacy
Speaker:relationship questions
Speaker:about how to get turned on
Speaker:and how to be better in bed with their partner
Speaker:cause they feel like there's an emotional disconnect
Speaker:yeah I think the most important thing
Speaker:regardless of this story or any others
Speaker:is open communication with your partner
Speaker:yeah could I
Speaker:I don't wanna interrupt you
Speaker:but if you ever had a guy that's like
Speaker:I'm having trouble getting an erection
Speaker:and then you walk and he goes
Speaker:oh it's fixed
Speaker:thanks for I'm good
Speaker:cause you're huh
Speaker:um I'm sorry
Speaker:you continue
Speaker:I tried to it's kind of happened it has
Speaker:it probably has
Speaker:fuck well should've asked
Speaker:so you're saying a guy came in
Speaker:I don't wanna interrupt your thought
Speaker:cause you go back to your
Speaker:and then we'll put a pin in that
Speaker:you were just saying
Speaker:sometimes take their own
Speaker:if a couple is totally fine with that
Speaker:and they get turned on by watching each other
Speaker:have sex with other people
Speaker:as long as it's consenting adults
Speaker:and they're doing what they wanna do
Speaker:I have no judgment for other people
Speaker:I have judgment for myself and my relationship with you
Speaker:yeah so you know what I expect and what rules I have
Speaker:and I know what you expect and what rules you have
Speaker:and therefore
Speaker:we can have fun and
Speaker:explore and do a ton of stuff together
Speaker:without disrespecting the other person yeah
Speaker:I got jealous of a guy
Speaker:you were with
Speaker:I think 25 years ago
Speaker:with a quick sex tape
Speaker:oh so that's
Speaker:that was nothing
Speaker:god but I'm
Speaker:I'm I'm not proud of this
Speaker:oh no I just meant like
Speaker:I would like you to know like yeah
Speaker:sex with you is better
Speaker:so like if it ever makes you feel bad again
Speaker:just think about that
Speaker:I'm staying with you and I'm not with him
Speaker:that's nice
Speaker:um thank you for that right
Speaker:but that makes sense
Speaker:one of my very best friends is a swinger
Speaker:who guy or girl
Speaker:both oh it's a couple
Speaker:wow they're married
Speaker:are swingers good at
Speaker:not trying to
Speaker:like you know
Speaker:Jehovah's witnesses
Speaker:are not good at letting you kind of do your own thing
Speaker:religiously
Speaker:they'll knock on your door
Speaker:they'll give you pamphlets
Speaker:are swingers
Speaker:live and let live
Speaker:or do they try to
Speaker:you know what's the word I'm looking for
Speaker:not coerced
Speaker:but did they try to
Speaker:you know what the army
Speaker:did they try to
Speaker:well I mean
Speaker:this is my best friend I've known since I was like
Speaker:22 so I mean
Speaker:I think she was very respectful and like
Speaker:what she wanted to do versus me
Speaker:she was really nervous to tell me
Speaker:it was a very interesting conversation
Speaker:and then when she finally said it
Speaker:I was like oh fuck
Speaker:tell me more
Speaker:and she was like
Speaker:oh I'll tell you more
Speaker:and he was like
Speaker:hours of her describing
Speaker:like what they did
Speaker:and I was like holy shit
Speaker:were they hot
Speaker:was she hot
Speaker:I guess she's beautiful
Speaker:but what I think is interesting is
Speaker:she was really embarrassed to tell me
Speaker:and I'm her best friend wow
Speaker:and I think it was a judgment right
Speaker:and once she realized like
Speaker:I was open minded to what works for her and her partner
Speaker:right then it
Speaker:was like oh okay
Speaker:I can tell her everything
Speaker:cause she's not gonna judge me
Speaker:right up until that moment
Speaker:she said it was a very close
Speaker:thing with just a few people
Speaker:they told because most people
Speaker:don't approve of an orgy of
Speaker:20 people or
Speaker:going over to another couple's house and just
Speaker:swapping partners in front of each other
Speaker:I would be worried that I would be into it
Speaker:until after I finished
Speaker:and I was like
Speaker:we shouldn't have done that
Speaker:I just and then what are we gonna do
Speaker:eat dinner yeah
Speaker:they actually dated a couple once for a while
Speaker:like they were like
Speaker:for some like dated
Speaker:dated for months
Speaker:like they were
Speaker:monogamous with another couple
Speaker:and they would go on dates
Speaker:they would celebrate
Speaker:anniversaries
Speaker:I don't I don't need another anniversary
Speaker:polyamorous
Speaker:relationships in like a compound
Speaker:always have struck me as interesting too
Speaker:where you can just like swap in and out
Speaker:because again
Speaker:for the average human
Speaker:men women both
Speaker:the average person
Speaker:does still find an emotional
Speaker:connection to some degree yeah
Speaker:so things very interesting when you can have
Speaker:a whole group living together
Speaker:and just pick a sexual partner
Speaker:and there aren't jealous feelings
Speaker:sister wives
Speaker:what the fuck is that
Speaker:I'd be a terrible sister wife
Speaker:I'd be like
Speaker:get the fuck out
Speaker:it's my turn
Speaker:I don't know what that is
Speaker:I don't know
Speaker:first first of all
Speaker:it's a it's a show
Speaker:it's like oh
Speaker:it is it's polygamists
Speaker:it's based on like
Speaker:real show not
Speaker:not fake show no
Speaker:it's real polygamists
Speaker:and Utah of all places yeah
Speaker:they still have certain
Speaker:they love that community yeah
Speaker:yep and it's not
Speaker:by the way it's never
Speaker:a woman with multiple husbands
Speaker:you imagine
Speaker:having to get
Speaker:fucking badass
Speaker:that would be
Speaker:I would just
Speaker:multiple wives
Speaker:can you imagine having to get
Speaker:permission from 10
Speaker:women to go out with the guys
Speaker:I would be the wife
Speaker:with the 10 wives
Speaker:you'd be the
Speaker:the wife with the
Speaker:10 husbands no
Speaker:I don't want fucking 10 husbands
Speaker:I decided that would be terrible
Speaker:you would be a wife
Speaker:with 10 wives
Speaker:nothing would get done
Speaker:I'd be the wife
Speaker:and I could have left 10 other wives
Speaker:around me you're the
Speaker:you're the lead wife
Speaker:with one husband
Speaker:you're saying
Speaker:no husbands
Speaker:do you have a shit
Speaker:I would get done in a day
Speaker:oh I'm sure
Speaker:with 10 wives
Speaker:here's my problem
Speaker:one day with 10 wives in a year
Speaker:with 10 husbands
Speaker:of course and
Speaker:I have a problem
Speaker:here's my problem
Speaker:with plague me
Speaker:don't you feel like
Speaker:we love each other
Speaker:I think we love
Speaker:spending time together
Speaker:but there are times when you want
Speaker:space right
Speaker:you want your
Speaker:we've all talked about like
Speaker:once we're apart
Speaker:we try to think of ways to make it easier
Speaker:to be a park
Speaker:you go I get my
Speaker:bed to myself
Speaker:yeah I get what
Speaker:no one's fucking
Speaker:asshole snoring it
Speaker:whatever it
Speaker:whatever it is
Speaker:but can you imagine if
Speaker:when you left
Speaker:a relationship
Speaker:you wanna cross the street to another
Speaker:wife like fuck
Speaker:that's what they do
Speaker:and they each get a day
Speaker:depend on how many wives there are
Speaker:she'll be like
Speaker:oh this is my weekend with him right
Speaker:and the rest of them
Speaker:they have children together
Speaker:so there's like
Speaker:10 kids 20 kids
Speaker:or whatever
Speaker:and they're raising
Speaker:the other women's kids
Speaker:when that woman has
Speaker:three nights in bed with him
Speaker:yeah and then
Speaker:they just switch yeah
Speaker:I'm still thinking about earlier
Speaker:when you said
Speaker:but that also has a lot of
Speaker:religious connotations
Speaker:and I think a lot of
Speaker:women probably don't want that
Speaker:relationship
Speaker:but they do it out of
Speaker:religious obligation
Speaker:sure 48 or 49
Speaker:minutes ago
Speaker:you said that
Speaker:your sex number
Speaker:oh would be so different
Speaker:if we kind of
Speaker:oral sex and
Speaker:it's all I've been thinking about
Speaker:um well like
Speaker:hand jobs too
Speaker:or like any touching
Speaker:this is not helping
Speaker:um well that
Speaker:your number would go up also
Speaker:I presume well
Speaker:just a little bit
Speaker:what I would ask you
Speaker:but I'm afraid to ask
Speaker:honestly I don't
Speaker:what for reals
Speaker:it would only go up
Speaker:a tiny bit nah
Speaker:I guess it would
Speaker:I guess you're right
Speaker:you're right
Speaker:double standard
Speaker:well let's eliminate that then okay
Speaker:coming up on the next episode of afraid to ask
Speaker:you know what
Speaker:my friend asked me what to ask you
Speaker:what he goes
Speaker:how do I know I'm good and better not
Speaker:I don't know if I'm good or bad in bed why
Speaker:does your friend want your girlfriend to answer that
Speaker:because you're a doctor
Speaker:not well how am I
Speaker:I'm not a in bed sex person
Speaker:wait you're right yeah
Speaker:he asked if you haha no
Speaker:I don't even
Speaker:I mean sometimes when I
Speaker:back in the day
Speaker:I would like to listen to you
Speaker:I feel like I'm not horrible in bed
Speaker:but I feel like there was a time
Speaker:especially when we're younger
Speaker:like I remember a time where
Speaker:I remember a time where the girl wouldn't even come
Speaker:and by that I mean show up
Speaker:ha ha ha ha ha
Speaker:like I was all alone ha ha
